Are we in trouble? Or are we chasing Dreams?

It's been two weeks since I officially stepped off the floor from coaching at My-FIT-24, and the mix of emotions has been intense...

As many of you know, Jesse and I are chasing after our BIG dreams, moving toward something that's been calling to us for a long time.

When you leave behind something that’s been successful and safe, it’s fascinating—and at the same time, can sometimes be heart-wrenching—to see how people react.

I do, however, appreciate all of these reactions.

I understand that they come from a place of loving what we were before we took this most recent BIG step from our comfort zone.

Most, who have witnessed our journey through the years, have been genuinely excited for us, thrilled to see us stepping into our vision with so much energy and passion. They see that familiar spark in our eyes and they are cheering us on as we dive into this new BIGGER adventure.

But then there are those who are scared for us, and their fear comes with a touch of sadness. Some can’t help but imagine that something must be wrong—maybe our marriage is in trouble, or we’re facing financial difficulties, or even that our health is failing.

It’s painful to see the people we care about worrying like that, especially when the truth is so far from their fears.

The reality is, our marriage has never been stronger, we’re secure and ready for the future, and our goal is to be the healthiest empty nesters who ever did live.

And then, there are the few who are angry with us. This is the most difficult (for me personally) to process. These people feel let down, like we’re abandoning the community we’ve poured so much into. It’s hard because, in their eyes, we’re leaving something good behind, and that might feel like a betrayal.

But here’s what I’ve come to understand...

When you make a big change in your life, it doesn’t just shake up your world—it shakes up everyone around you.

It’s like pulling on a thread; suddenly, everything else gets tugged too.

In one of my favorite books; "The Dream Giver", Brian Wilkerson talks about "border bullies," those who, often unintentionally, try to hold you back when you’re on the brink of something new.

Most react out of love and concern, but some are just really uncomfortable with the way you are transforming before their eyes.

Their resistance comes from their own fears and insecurities, and while it’s hard, it’s also part of the journey.
Jesse and I have been through this many times before, so we knew what to expect and even mentally prepared for it to happen...

We recognized the fear, the concern, the anger—all of it.

And while it’s not easy, we know that taking this leap is what we need to do for the next phase of our life and our purpose.

When you decide to change your life, it’s natural for others to feel uncomfortable. It forces them to look at their own lives, and that’s not always easy.

For us, this confirms that we’re on the right path.

Our dreams are taking shape, and all of this is just part of the process.

Every reaction, whether it’s excitement, fear, or even anger, is a sign that something big is happening. It’s all unfolding just as it should.

So let me ask you:

Have you ever taken a big step out of your comfort zone and felt the pushback from border bullies?
How did it shape your journey?

I’d love to hear about your experience and how you navigated those moments of resistance.

Love,

Stacey xoxoxo